Imagine breaking up with someone within the first eight hours of meeting them. I don’t have to imagine it myself, because that literally happened to me yesterday.
A brief synopsis: a chance encounter with a cute stranger that morning devolved into a mini-textathon after I said upfront that I prefer phone calls. He then tried to strongarm a date after I told him I had plans for the weekend (and even if I didn’t, I don’t do dates with less than 72 hours notice), requested my pictures (which I do not send to strangers I just met), and sent unsolicited pictures of himself (thankfully they weren’t vulgar, but I still didn’t want them). Punctuate this with the poorest grammar I’ve ever seen from an adult or child, and what do you know he was swiftly blocked.
This is outside of my usual MO. The more inexperienced, insecure me would have grinned and bared it, believing that these were just minor offenses that were merely covering my potential Prince Charming. However I finally understand my mom’s sage advice of “If it annoys you a little bit now, it will annoy TF out of you later.” As a writer, nothing irritates me more than run-on sentences and using the letter “u” and substitute for “you.” As an evolving woman, I am immediately turned off by dudes who think that using their physicality is enough to sway me into swooning into their arms-and most likely their beds. So, why waste my time trying to polish some diamond in the rough when he was able to show me within 10 minutes that he wasn’t at all what I was looking for?
And so it should go for you. Too often we’re suckered into tolerating things that we know from the jump are deal-breakers, thinking that minor annoyances are to be overlooked because there must be a great guy in there somewhere. But here’s the kicker: great people present themselves as great people. If you have to go on an excavation to dig out someone’s good character, there’s a big chance that it’s not there. So, follow your gut. Be ruthless. You don’t owe anyone a chance to make a second impression when their first one was an accurate picture of who they truly are.
Don’t feel obligated to travel down roads that you already know will lead to nowhere.